“If you want something to last forever, you treat it differently. You shield it and protect it. You never abuse it. You don’t expose it to the elements. You don’t make it common or ordinary. If it ever becomes tarnished, you lovingly polish it until it gleams like new. It becomes special because you have made it so, and it grows more beautiful and precious as time goes by.” - F. Burton Howard
over the weekend, dustin and i spent the entire day together, without holden, for the first time in 19 months. and in stopping to think about it, we realized that it is kind of a shockingly long time for us not to have an extended amount of alone time together. for months we have said that we should do it, my mom has offered countless times to take holden for weekends, but then the time would come and we'd get excited about a random family outing or decide we were too tired or just not and choose that instead. or we wouldn't have anything specific in mind and decide that it didn't really matter.
but on a whim, we decided it was time. without any planning, without showering, without as much as running a brush through my hair, dustin and i left for the entire afternoon and evening. on saturday, after putting holden down for his nap, we asked my mom if she would watch holden for the rest of the day and of course she eagerly agreed, excited to spend some alone time with her grandson.
with absolutely no plans, we drove into the city and wandered around our old neighborhood. we stopped in at our old house and reminisced on the times we enjoyed there as newlyweds. we walked, we shopped, we talked, we ate, and we remembered that our relationship is the priority.
upon arriving home to see that holden was happy, content, and couldn't stop talking about how much fun he had with grandma, we have decided that it is something we need to do more often. knowing now, that even a few hours to ourselves is important and integral part of maintaining our marriage.