parenthood

TO LAST FOREVER.

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If you want something to last forever, you treat it differently. You shield it and protect it. You never abuse it. You don’t expose it to the elements. You don’t make it common or ordinary. If it ever becomes tarnished, you lovingly polish it until it gleams like new. It becomes special because you have made it so, and it grows more beautiful and precious as time goes by.” - F. Burton Howard

over the weekend, dustin and i spent the entire day together, without holden, for the first time in 19 months.  and in stopping to think about it, we realized that it is kind of a shockingly long time for us not to have an extended amount of alone time together.  for months we have said that we should do it, my mom has offered countless times to take holden for weekends, but then the time would come and we'd get excited about a random family outing or decide we were too tired or just not and choose that instead.  or we wouldn't have anything specific in mind and decide that it didn't really matter.

but on a whim, we decided it was time.  without any planning, without showering, without as much as running a brush through my hair, dustin and i left for the entire afternoon and evening.  on saturday, after putting holden down for his nap, we asked my mom if she would watch holden for the rest of the day and of course she eagerly agreed, excited to spend some alone time with her grandson.

with absolutely no plans, we drove into the city and wandered around our old neighborhood.  we stopped in at our old house and reminisced on the times we enjoyed there as newlyweds.  we walked, we shopped, we talked, we ate, and we remembered that our relationship is the priority.

upon arriving home to see that holden was happy, content, and couldn't stop talking about how much fun he had with grandma, we have decided that it is something we need to do more often.  knowing now, that even a few hours to ourselves is important and integral part of maintaining our marriage.

HERS & HIS: ORANGE POPSICLES.

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mama outfit inspiration // noe & zoe bow tie // neiman marcus cashmere cardigan // stella mccartney kids shorts // crewcuts socks // converse high tops 

it's been a while since i've done any outfit inspirations for our little family, so i thought it was about time.  i am kind of obsessed with tulle and dressy skirts at the moment and adore this fun outfit above.

i've also thinking a lot about parenting methods lately.  i truly believe to each their own.  each and every person has a different view on parenting, and different parenting methods and techniques work better for different children.  i try not to judge the way that other people do things and try to remain confident in my decisions even if they sometimes go against the norm.  at the beginning of holden's life, when i was new to the whole mommy thing, i would get offended when people gave me their opinions on how i was raising my child or lectured me on what they did and how that was the best way, but today, i am 100% confident in how i am raising holden.  i know what works best for him and don't second guess myself if someone doesn't agree.

but then, this happened yesterday...

we are generally healthy eaters at our house.  i am vegetarian (the boys are not), but because of that we eat a lot of good veggies and fruit.  the only sugary food holden has had in his life thus far was his birthday cake and a handful of popsicles, but the other day, as a little treat, i took holden to get sorbet with me at a local gelato shop.  i gave holden a few bites and while feeding him a small scoop a woman walking by stopped to say hello and smile at him.  she then walked into the gelato shop herself and i didn't think anything of it.  that is until she showed back up a few minutes later to lecture me on giving my child something filled with artificial colors and sugar.

i was so much in shock in that moment that i couldn't respond.  as my mouth hung open, she walked away to go about her day as usual and i was left with a huge pit in my stomach.  despite the fact that i believe that everything in moderation is the way to live, i was crushed.  having a stranger chastise you in public is humiliating.  she made me feel bad about my choice to enjoy a little sorbet (his first ever!) with holden without knowing anything about us.

that experience has reminded me to never judge other parents, grandparents, or anyone else for that matter and their methods and views on child-rearing.  and unless someone asks, not to be overly forthcoming about my opinion on these matters because every child needs things done just a little differently.

HOLDEN'S FIRST WEDDING.

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we headed to san diego for the wedding of dustin's cousin this weekend, the first wedding holden has ever attended.  dustin and i were really looking forward to showing holden off to dustin's family and celebrating, but we weren't anticipating how much work having a baby at a wedding would be!  our little man has always been an extremely active child and recently he has had more energy than ever, interested in exploring (and destroying) every inch of his surroundings...which isn't really possible at a wedding. we arrived at the ceremony and as soon as it started, holden started doing an excited "ba! ba! ba!"  dustin and i quickly retreated with holden in tow and played with him in a different area of the hotel where he could squeal and giggle as loud as he liked until the ceremony was finished.  during the cocktail hour, holden was free to explore and we thought he just might deplete his energy and be ready to sit through dinner.  but two hours of a formal dinner and toasts are definitely not conducive to a wild child and dustin and i struggled to contain him, maintain conversations with the table, and eat.  needless to say, pretty sure we didn't do any one of the three very well.  we have a few more weddings coming up this summer and we definitely need a different plan of attack.  does anyone have any tips for bringing a baby to a wedding?